What to expect
Why have counselling or psychotherapy and how can I help you?
We all face challenges in our everyday lives. Sometimes the troubles we encounter can feel like more than we can deal with. This may be depression, anxiety, trauma, sexuality, relationships, bullying, bereavement or low self-esteem, to name but a few. Maybe you just don't feel yourself but you don't know why. Talking to someone who is not a friend or at all involved in your life can have huge benefits.
I can offer you a safe space where I'll listen to whatever is troubling you with empathy and understanding. If appropriate I'll also challenge you in a caring and respectful way to enable you to get the most out of your sessions.
What's the difference between counselling and psychotherapy and how do you know which one you need?
Counselling tends to involve short term work and looks at coping mechanisms and strategies for dealing with issues or situations that you find uncomfortable.
Psychotherapy is usually longer term work because it is deeper-rooted. This could mean looking at unpleasant recurring situations or uncomfortable feelings in your life.
I provide a safe, supportive and confidential space to work together to discover where these feelings have come from. Through this new level of self-understanding we can look to make real life changes to put a stop to recurring uncomfortable patterns of behaviour.
You may know whether you want counselling or psychotherapy, but most people don't. Whether you have a clear idea in mind or just want someone to talk to, please get in contact. I'll meet with you, discuss your needs and then tailor my approach to you. We are all individual and I will work with you in whatever way will benefit you most.
How many sessions will you need?
This is very individual and will depend on your needs, again the duration of the work will be tailored to you. I offer long and short term therapy and we'll regularly review the work to make sure you're getting the most from your sessions.
What can you expect from the first session?
When you come into counselling or therapy for your first session, I'll ask you to tell me about yourself and why you have decided to come for therapy. Please do not worry if you don't know - we can always figure this out together. We'll discuss your therapeutic contract, which is what you hope to gain from our work together. This can be absolutely anything that is important to you.
I may also ask you questions about your lifestyle, eating and sleeping habits, medication and anything else that may be relevant to our work together. I'm also very happy to answer any questions about my work. The relationship between the therapist and client is a vital part of the work and so from the first session we will start to build up a relationship of trust and respect.
It's very important that you choose the right therapist for you. If you decide after your first session that I'm not the person for you to work with, then that is absolutely fine. The most important thing is that you get the help and support you need, whether that's from me or another therapist.
How do I work?
My training has been primarily in Transactional Analysis, which is based on a theory founded by Eric Berne. The core beliefs of Transactional Analysis include that everyone is equal and worthy of respect, everyone has the capacity to think and everyone is capable of change.
The work is largely contractual which means that when you first start therapy sessions we will aim to establish what you would like to achieve from our work together. However, many people start their therapeutic journey without knowing what outcome they would like, so we can always work this out together.
I work relationally whereby a lot of the work achieved is through the respectful and equal relationship between the client and therapist and this means I may offer you my thoughts or insights during the sessions.
Transactional Analysis can be used in long or short term therapy work and I work with my clients to identify damaging patterns of behaviour or ways of communicating and use this self awareness to make changes.